"Never reject anybody in your life, because good people give us happiness and bad people give us experience. Both are essential in life."

Can you imagine, finally showing your true self to your spouse, your soul mate, and having him not like you?

(Source: jamiefraiser)

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-Gone Girl

I quote the passage at length because it’s just so incredibly on point and reflective of a certain mode of femininity that our current cultural moment valorizes and celebrates.

(via arcadian-bones)

Men always say that as the defining compliment, don’t they? She’s a cool girl. Being the Cool Girl means I am a hot, brilliant, funny woman who adores football, poker, dirty jokes, and burping, who plays video games, drinks cheap beer, loves threesomes and anal sex, and jams hot dogs and hamburgers into her mouth like she’s hosting the world’s biggest culinary gang bang while somehow maintaining a size 2, because Cool Girls are above all hot. Hot and understanding. Cool Girls never get angry; they only smile in a chagrined, loving manner and let their men do whatever they want. Go ahead, shit on me, I don’t mind, I’m the Cool Girl.

Men actually think this girl exists. Maybe they’re fooled because so many women are willing to pretend to be this girl. For a long time Cool Girl offended me. I used to see men — friends, coworkers, strangers — giddy over these awful pretender women, and I’d want to sit these men down and calmly say: You are not dating a woman, you are dating a woman who has watched too many movies written by socially awkward men who’d like to believe that this kind of woman exists and might kiss them. I’d want to grab the poor guy by his lapels or messenger bag and say: The bitch doesn’t really love chili dogs that much — no one loves chili dogs that much! And the Cool Girls are even more pathetic: They’re not even pretending to be the woman they want to be, they’re pretending to be the woman a man wants them to be. Oh, and if you’re not a Cool Girl, I beg you not to believe that your man doesn’t want the Cool Girl. It may be a slightly different version — maybe he’s a vegetarian, so Cool Girl loves seitan and is great with dogs; or maybe he’s a hipster artist, so Cool Girl is a tattooed, bespectacled nerd who loves comics. There are variations to the window dressing, but believe me, he wants Cool Girl, who is basically the girl who likes every fucking thing he likes and doesn’t ever complain.

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Gillian Flynn: “Best thing about working from home is not having to wear a bra.”

mysharona1987:

I love this woman.

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Gone Girl (via catphotographs)

when two people love each other and can’t make it work, that’s the real tragedy.
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Gillian Flynn (via zu-viel-ist-nicht-genug)

There is an unfair responsibility that comes with being an only child - you grow up knowing you aren’t allowed to disappoint, you’re not even allowed to die. There isn’t a replacement toddling around; you’re it. It makes you desperate to be flawless, and it also makes you drunk with the power. In such ways are despots made.
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How do you know you’re not Cool Girl? Because he says things like: “I like strong women.” If he says that to you, he will at some point fuck someone else. Because “I like strong women” is code for “I hate strong women.”

(Source: brtinelli)

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colortherhappy:

Early morning musings…

Learning to live in the moment is actually hard to do. Especially for a “ruminator” (read: over thinker) like me. But it’s a lesson I need to learn if I ever want to live a life that didn’t just pass me by. And I guess on that note, we shouldn’t spend too much time dwelling on our yesterdays either—because they’ve had their day.

So we should live for THIS day—we only have one shot at it.

colortherhappy:

Early morning musings…

Learning to live in the moment is actually hard to do. Especially for a “ruminator” (read: over thinker) like me. But it’s a lesson I need to learn if I ever want to live a life that didn’t just pass me by. And I guess on that note, we shouldn’t spend too much time dwelling on our yesterdays either—because they’ve had their day.

So we should live for THIS day—we only have one shot at it.

(via scribebynight)

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(via halcyon24)

(Source: lauraelizabethross, via halcyon24)

and I’m over it,
I’m over it,
I promise I’m over it.
But it still hurts sometimes.
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